I am touched and moved to write about a recent experience. A woman, who comes to me for a reading.
Sadness- the undeniable sadness of loss- loss of chance, opportunity or possibility of ever becoming a mother.
A women grieving as 50 approaches and she has no child in her life to nurture.
Sadness, pain, grief- unmistakable grief for what never was and what can now never be.
I feel her pain, yet only
to a point
for i am a Mother, my waiting paid off.
I was blessed with time.
I never had to face a time when time ran out.
And so i am moved to write about this because of the 'need' of us, as women , to reproduce in order to feel our creative, nurturing side- in order to touch our Empress energy, in order to access the basic instinct of being the producer of another life, and i wonder why, some are denied and others overwhelmed.
Sadness, tangible.
A women, a sister, mine and yours, reaching a milestone in life and thinking 'so what now?'
50 years of longing with possibility now becomes 30 years of mourning the probability.
I am sad for her and for all like her, all the childless mothers in our world.
Yet i believe, that 'Mother' is the key word here and my own thoughts are that it does not take a child to make a mother.
'Mother' is a phase of womenhood that we all must pass through.
Having a child may make it easier to access the emotions of the phase, but it not absolute; for as women we are born to produce, create, nurture and love and it is known and accepted that more than a child can bring these traits to the surface.
Some find motherhood in creativity- art, craft, writing, others in healing, in animals, in caring for our world.
As women who love, care, nurture and produce, are we really 'less' a mother because the the object of our Empress energy is not a child?
I think not.
Still, my reading has made me think again of the gift of children.
Of the lessons they are sent to teach us, and of our childless sisters- with so much love to give.
I am grieving the passing of opportunity for a woman I barely know, and yet who is at the same time, my sister and me. She is you too- in another time and place.
I am so very sad for her loss and praying that she will find the outlet for the Empress who dwells in her heart. SHE is the same Empress who dwells in my heart, and in yours too.
I am calling to Mother Mary, Kwan Yin, Bride and Isis and asking for the love in their hearts to reach out to this childless Mother and to reassure her that her life is of value to many and that she is not as alone as she feels.
Why do we have children?
For completeness,
to feel complete as women.
Our children complete us which makes being a Mother easy. It is not so easy for those of us without children to feel complete, to feel a Mother; and this is truth and sadness in one.
Our children are a blessing to US because through them we grow.
I am grieving for my childless sisters, for opportunity gone, possibility gone and the emptiness this brings.
I honour you by loving my children and seeing them as the Divine gift they are.
I honour you by calling you Mother for all you create, love and nurture.
I honour you for your strength and courage when in turth I know not whether i would be so strong and brave.
You are my sister, you are me in another time and place.
I honour your sadness and your grief.
I honour you.
Blessed Be
Lisa;who is you, in another time , place, world.
